When You're a Healer and Nobody Gets What You Do

Back when I first discovered Reiki, I was completely amazed by how I felt after a session. I was fascinated by how it worked—it seemed like the most natural thing in the world to train as a Reiki practitioner. It felt so right, like I was remembering something ancient, something that had always been within me. Having reiki sessions gave me the clarity and the courage to leave my job, it had such a transformational effect on me that I knew I had to share this with other people. 

When you awaken to your healing gifts—when you start to feel energy deeply, know in your heart that you’re here for more, and dream of sharing your light with the world—it can be magical. But it can also feel incredibly lonely when those around you just don’t get it.

I was still in my corporate job when I trained in Reiki, and I’ll be honest—it wasn’t easy. I’d often get sniggers when I mentioned it. One guy at work thought the whole thing was a joke. My family didn’t take it seriously either. I think they assumed it was just a phase. When I tried to talk about how beneficial it was, it was obvious they thought it was a load of nonsense.

Maybe you’ve experienced something similar. Your family thinks your interest in energy work is “just a phase.” Your colleagues raise an eyebrow when you talk about Reiki. Your friends go silent when you mention intuition, crystals, or past lives.

Here’s the truth: not everyone is meant to understand your path. And that’s okay.

3 Tips for Owning Your Path as a Healer

1. Don’t Force It

This was one of my biggest early lessons—trying to plead the case for Reiki to people who just weren’t open to it, especially my family. But the truth is, you don’t need to convince anyone. Your energy speaks for itself. Share your truth when it feels safe and aligned, but don’t waste your magic trying to explain it to people who aren’t ready to hear it.

I learnt to just do my thing. I followed what felt good, explored healing practices I loved, and didn’t feel the need to share with everyone. If someone was curious, I shared. If not, I let it be. Even now—13 years on—my family still don’t really understand what I do. But they love me and let me get on with it. I don’t feel judged anymore. I’m being me, and I let them be them. All is well.

2. Find Your People

In the beginning, it can feel like you’re the only one who thinks and feels this way—like the lone healer. But you’re not alone. There is a whole community out there who speaks your language.

Join online circles, attend local workshops, go to holistic events, yoga classes, join Facebook groups—just start putting yourself in spaces where others like you gather. Eventually, you’ll find your people. These days, most of my friends are therapists, healers, and spiritual entrepreneurs. We talk about manifesting, energy healing, crystals, intuition—everything I once felt I had to hide. You’ll find your tribe when you look for them.

3. Do It Anyway

Your gifts are needed. Now more than ever. Don’t dim your light waiting for permission. Walk your path—even if you’re the only one walking it for now. Trust that those meant for you will find you.

If it feels good, follow it. If others judge, that’s their issue. I remember once massaging a client in my treatment room and being flooded with this deep knowing that I had done this before. It felt like coming home to something ancient and joyful. That’s when I truly knew—I was on the right path.

Conclusion: You’re Not Meant to Fit In—You’re Meant to Shine

Being a healer in a world that doesn’t always understand you can feel isolating—but it’s also incredibly brave. You’re doing something powerful: breaking cycles, following your truth, and stepping into your purpose. You don’t need everyone to get it. You just need to stay connected to your why.

Keep going. Trust yourself. You’re not here to be understood by everyone—you’re here to shine your light, and those who are meant for you will feel it.

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